Many people seek help because they feel caught in patterns they can no longer control, understand, or change on their own. Sometimes those patterns involve drugs or alcohol. Other times they involve work, technology, relationships, anger, perfectionism, achievement, avoidance, or other ways of coping that once served a purpose but now create suffering. Regardless of the form the pattern takes, the underlying experience is often similar: feeling stuck despite repeated efforts to do something different.
Email Abe to learn moreWhile addiction is commonly associated with drugs and alcohol, many people struggle with repetitive behaviors, emotional cycles, and coping strategies that function in similar ways. These patterns can include:
The specific behavior matters, but understanding the function that behavior serves is often where meaningful change begins.
"Meaningful change is often far more individualized than people are told."
I do not believe there is a one-size-fits-all approach to recovery or change. Many people have been told that there is only one path forward, only one treatment model, or only one definition of success. My experience has shown that meaningful change is often far more individualized.
When the pattern involves alcohol or substances, I meet you where you are, and I do not work from an abstinence-only model. Not everyone wants abstinence or a 12-step path, and I do not believe abstinence is the only way to treat addiction. I am very familiar with harm reduction, and if abstinence is not the goal you are willing to pursue, we work together to identify practical strategies and a realistic plan forward.
Rather than focusing exclusively on symptom reduction, we work to understand: what the pattern is trying to accomplish; what emotional needs it may be serving; what activates the cycle; what keeps the cycle in place; and how new responses can begin to emerge.
My work is relational, attachment-based, and experiential, helping clients understand and shift patterns in real time rather than simply talking about them.
Not everyone benefits from the same treatment approach. While some individuals find tremendous value in residential treatment, 12-step programs, or complete abstinence, many people are looking for a different path. I offer non-abstinence-based treatment and harm reduction for those who want it, helping you lower risk and build a realistic plan that fits your life. Abstinence can be one goal, but I do not believe it is the only way to treat addiction. My approach is collaborative and individualized.
Together we explore what meaningful change looks like for you, while maintaining an honest conversation about risks, consequences, goals, and long-term well-being. The focus is not on forcing a predetermined outcome, but on helping you create a healthier and more intentional relationship with yourself and the patterns that have been keeping you stuck.
As people begin to understand and shift these patterns, they often experience:
More room to feel and respond, instead of being driven by the cycle.
More connection and less of the reactivity that pushes people away.
A clearer sense of what activates the pattern and what keeps it in place.
More space between impulse and action, and more choice in between.
New, more workable ways of responding to the pressures of life.
A returning sense of purpose and direction. The goal is not perfection.
If you have been struggling with addiction, compulsive behaviors, or patterns that continue to repeat despite your efforts to change them, therapy may provide an opportunity to understand what is happening beneath the surface and begin creating meaningful change.
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