Parent Coaching & Family Conflict Resolution

Watching an adult child struggle, with addiction, mental health, instability, or patterns that keep repeating, is one of the most painful and disorienting experiences a parent can face. You may feel caught between wanting to help and not knowing how, cycling through worry, conflict, rescuing, and frustration that never seems to change anything.

This is coaching for you, the parent. The goal is to help you respond differently, so you can support your child without losing yourself in the process.

I also help families work through conflict more broadly, not only parents of an adult child. That includes conflict between parents, tension among adult siblings and relatives, disputes tied to a shared family business, and long-standing family conflict that never seems to resolve. If your family is stuck in the same painful patterns, this work is for you too.

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You May Be Navigating

The pull between helping and holding steady

This work often supports parents navigating:

An adult child struggling with addiction or substance use
Mental health crises or ongoing instability
Difficulty launching, or long-term dependence
Constant conflict, or growing estrangement
The pull between enabling and setting boundaries
Your own anxiety, guilt, grief, and exhaustion

Family Conflict Resolution

Working through conflict across the whole family

Parent coaching is one part of this work. I also help families move through conflict more broadly, mediating and working things through when the strain is between parents, among adult siblings and relatives, or woven into a shared family business.

Family conflict rarely stays in one place. Old roles, money, caregiving decisions, and business pressures often become tangled together, and the same arguments repeat without ever resolving. My role is to help everyone slow down, understand what is actually driving the conflict, and find a way forward people can live with.

This work can support your family with:

Conflict between parents, or between parents and adult children
Tension and disputes among adult siblings and other relatives
Conflict tied to a shared family business or family finances
Long-standing, unresolved family conflict that keeps repeating
Communication that has broken down or hardened into silence

My Approach

Focused on what you can actually influence

I draw on more than 17 years in addiction treatment and family systems, including years leading clinical teams and treatment programs. We focus on what you can actually influence: your own responses, your boundaries, your communication, and the relational patterns between you and your child.

Together we work on

Setting boundaries without cutting off
Reducing enabling while staying connected
Managing your own reactivity and fear
Understanding what your child is facing, without carrying it as your fault

What Change Can Look Like

Support from steadiness rather than panic

Clearer boundaries, less reactivity, relief from guilt, and a more grounded relationship with your child, one where you can offer support from steadiness rather than panic.

Get Started

Ready to talk it through?

The first step is a brief consultation to understand your situation and see whether this approach feels like a good fit.

Email Abe, abeantinelcsw@gmail.com

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